I get defensive too! Ugh.
I was cleaning up the house, getting it ready for some new friends to come over, when my wife came home and said, "Mark, you haven't taken care of your piles on the bar yet!" Before I even had time to think, the words came out of my mouth, "I took care of some of them." And what flew through my mind to say next was an accompanying accusation - You haven't put away your ironing board either! I was then immediately struck by how quickly I can be defensive! What would I do next? What would YOU...